blog entry# 05 ^_^

There are so many similarities and differences between the past generation and today’s generation’s culture and values. First, relation between parents and children. In the past, the parents set up their children to someone whom they knew would give their children good life. [Fix marriage]. The parents are the one who sets the standards of their ideal in-laws. Today, parents still interfere in choosing the future husband or wife of their children but the final decision would still come from their children. It doesn’t matter if their future in-laws are rich or not, as long as their children are happy, they would give them the approval.
Second, boy and girl relationship. Boy and girl relationship starts in the courting stage. In the past, the guys do the “panunuyo” to win the girls hand. The guy must do everything so that the girl’s parents approve him. Today, guys just give girls flowers and chocolates and other stuff. Sometimes, a simple text messages and 24/7 phone call would do. That’s why some won’t believe in courting. It is replaced by the so called “getting-to-know stage”. It’s so easy for guys to have a girlfriend today. Sometimes, guys have two girlfriends or three. One month is enough for them to win the girl’s heart. So easy. [Wag mag-deny guys!...and girls…=p] [Share lang… My boyfriend and I didn’t have this formal courting stage… as is formal…?? We’re like just bestfriends ganon… almost 10 months din yon… It’s good because we know each other very well before we officially turned our relationship to the next level…Now, we’re together (as gf-bf) for 3years and I’m happy because we’re learning from each other everyday… Even others are saying that the 3rd year is the “at risk” stage of the relationship, we don’t mind because we know we’re serious about this relationship and it’s normal for us to fight but we consider it as another lesson for both of us and a blessing because it makes our relationship strong and healthy. ^_^]
Third, the wedding. The “pamamanhikan” still exist in today’s generation where in the guy, together with his parents go to the house of the girl to meet the girl’s parents and talk about the wedding. In Batangas, after the “pamamanhikan”, there’s a week long celebration (like fiesta…) esp. if the guy is from Manila. It is held a week before the wedding. The tradition in the past are still practiced today esp. in provinces. Like the in the reception, when the couple start the traditional dance, the ninongs and ninangs and the other relatives pin bills to the couple. Maybe the only difference is wedding outside the church are so in today. Like garden wedding, beach wedding…
Fourth, after marriage relationship. This stage is full of responsibilities. The men are still the head of the family. In the past, they are the one who only works to feed his family and the women just stay at home and do the household chores and take care of the children. Today, both men and women work outside their home. Sometimes, they switch, the woman works, the man stays at home. Women can now dominate men. YAHOO!!! But still letz face it, we’re not as physically strong as men. ^_^ Even though women can now do the jobs to men, some of it are still for men. So let’s don’t push ourselves to do those stuff….^_^